Going into a sex shop should always be an adventure. However, the advantage of going into a shop rather than shopping online does not only do you get to see and compare the products firsthand, but you also get expert knowledge — in most shops, anyway.

Here are 6 rules to make your shopping experience in a sex shop the most stress-free.

1. Don’t rush

Your venturing into a sex shop is that you buying something for a most intimate possession, your body. So if you don’t know exactly what you need, be it for you or someone else, take your time to figure out what works best for the intended recipient.

2. Consult with a Customer Assistant, not a Salesperson

Most will think that these 2 job titles are one and the same when actually they are certainly not. A Customer Assistant does simply that – assist. You tell them what you’re seeking, and they’ll assist you in finding what works best for you. They are not governed by a big sale, even if it comes at the cost of what you really want. A Customer Assistant will tell you the safest materials, and let you do the rest by yourself. Because after all, it’s like my personal motto says…. It’s your body, your call.

A salesperson, on the other hand, will talk, and talk, and talk. Leading you… ALL THE WAY. The problem is this might end in you buying something your body doesn’t really want or need because you were not heard enough to be properly assisted.

3. Don’t open packaging

There, of course, are times when a sex shop product calls out to you. It may be in packaging, but with no demo in sight. In that instance, ask a Customer Assistant to help you. For a sex shop ‘s no clothing store where you can easily go into some packaging, take it out so you can get a feel. Products in a sex shop are products that go to even more intimate parts of your body. So when you want to see a product there’s no demo for, ask for assistance. Please don’t take it upon yourself.

If you think about opening the packaging yourself, consider this scenario:

What if the store lets every customer open up packaging? Imagine just how many hands would be on that product before it finally got in yours.

Would you still want to buy? Exactly, you would not. (Or would you?) So please don’t make the product undesirable for anyone else who might want it, even though you don’t.

4. Shhh! Not so loud

The rush and excitement of venturing into a sex shop is totally understandable. Particularly with friends along for the ride. However, you’re in a store. An adult store. So please keep your elation over the experience under control. This is a rule more so for the sake of the other customers.

For while you might be vocal in your taking in the experience of a sex shop, and still be progressive in making a choice, others may need lower volumes around them. I’m not saying to be quiet like you’re in a library, Just be conscious of where you are.

5. Only Sample Toys Above The Waist

Yes, you are in a sex shop. However, keep the sampling with demos in/on non-intimate above the waist areas. Because no customer wants to touch a demo that you put on your bare nipple, or in/on your mouth.

6. Don’t yuck anyone else’s yum

We all have our individual desired positions, kinks, and fetishes. And we have every right to voice them…. in your private space. However, in a sex shop where all sexual tastes are permitted and respected, it’s rude to knowingly insult someone else’s sexual taste with any overt body language. That is unless the action, kink, or fetish can easily be proven as being mentally and/or physically harmful to one’s health.

In short, when it’s not dangerous, live by the old saying, “LIVE AND LET LIVE”.


Sex is fun. Don’t let social norms prevent you from being open to or trying new things.